When I first became separated, I hired a pit bull attorney so I could get back at my ex, who had wronged me. Unfortunately, the pit bull was a pit bull, but only to me and not my ex. My first attorney did nothing more than receive and forward me countless letters from opposing counsel, racking up thousands of dollars and never actually doing meaningful work on my case. Nine months, 9,000 dollars later, and nowhere closer to divorce, I fired my ex-attorney and hired Kevin Colwell. It was a very good decision. Kevin and his firm provided me with professional services at a reasonable price. Kevin did not forward me every letter as my previous, unscrupulous attorney had, but rather, only contacted me when there was something important. Kevin could have made himself thousands of dollars more by simply forwarding me the letters from opposing counsel, which were intended to break me mentally and financially. Instead, Kevin recognized this and saved me money. Not every attorney would do that.
At trial, the opposing counsel came off as a bully as he badgered me and peppered me with intentionally intimidating questions. Kevin’s approach to questioning my ex was respectful and professional. I believe this approach worked better with the judge and helped me decide. I didn’t get everything I wanted, and you probably won’t. But that’s not Kevin’s fault. Rulings are based on law and individual judges who follow statutes, and I am pleased to have taken the approach I did with Kevin.
If you are angry at your ex and are seeking a divorce attorney, and you want to go to war, plan on your war costing you thousands of dollars and taking far longer than is necessary to complete this unfortunate process. The money you will spend exacting a toll on your ex will cost you far more from your retirement and children’s college funds if you choose an attorney who will be more than happy to cash every check you write as you try to get back at your ex.
If, on the other hand, you’d like to try to get through this process with some dignity, with your head held high and with some money left in your pocket, Kevin Colwell is the attorney I’d recommend.
Going through my divorce, I learned why attorneys get a bad rap. Having hired one and been opposed by one, there are a lot of sketchy, selfish attorneys out there who will claim to have your and your children’s best interest at heart to lure you into hiring them and then padding their wallets with your money as they drag out the process unnecessarily for months letting you linger financially and emotionally. Kevin Colwell does care, and it gives me hope to know that not all stereotypes are correct and that there are good people in this profession.
I hope this helps. Good luck with your decision. You may not be able to see it now, but life gets much better when you find the one you’re supposed to be with. Hang in there. You’ll see.