Divorces and legal separations are complex processes. Mediation can be a cost-effective and more efficient way to solve family law disputes, such as physical separation and child custody arrangements.
You may be wondering how much control you will have in the mediation process. The outcome of family law mediation can depend on many factors, including the nature of the dispute itself. By managing your emotions and focusing on the end goal, you may be able to have more control over the outcome.
What is Mediation in Family Law?
Mediation involves hiring an independent, third-party mediator who is trained to help resolve family law disputes. During a divorce, you can use mediation to sort out arrangements involving children, assets, and other essential matters without going to Court.
Depending on the circumstances, partners can elect to use private mediation and settle out of Court. Alternatively, the Court can appoint a mediator through the public Court system. The ideal outcome of mediation is a compromise of wishes between parties to achieve a mutually agreeable resolution.
Tips to Maintain Control During Mediation
While mediation necessarily involves compromise, there are ways to help get the outcome you desire. First, keep an open mind. The goal of mediation, especially in matters involving children, is to do what is best for your entire family. Be willing to hear your partner and the mediator out. The mediator may have skills or techniques you may not have thought of, so being open to them is essential to get the best outcome.
It is similarly important to avoid being combative or overly disagreeable. Do not bring pre-existing issues between you and your partner to mediation; they are irrelevant and counter-productive for achieving a resolution. Be sure to use thoughtful language when referring to children or any other sensitive issues that arise. Instead of accusing your partner of something, try to use statements that begin with “I feel” so that the tone of what you are saying is less aggressive.
One of the best ways to maintain control during a family law dispute is to make sure you come to mediation prepared. Try mapping out a structured custody schedule or a document outlining how you believe assets should be divided. The mediator can use your ideas as a guide to achieve a mutually agreeable and satisfying resolution.
Learn More About Mediation From a Family Lawyer
Mediation can be a faster, cheaper alternative to litigation. Even though it may be challenging to manage family conflicts, staying calm, composed, and prepared can help you maintain control through the mediation process. Remember, the goal is to get the best outcome for yourself and your family, not win an argument.
If you have any questions about mediation or other legal options for resolving a divorce, do not hesitate to contact The Colwell Law Group, LLC. Our family law attorneys are here for you.